Our creative group had no difficulty exploring this.
In fact, we were quite good! We were non-judgmental. We listened. We asked how we could best help them. We had coffee with them. We walked around Greenlake with them. We made a special effort not to undermine their efforts - even when we didn't quite agree. We supported them, as long as their actions weren't harmful to them.
We need this kind of friend!
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| Linda with BFF Andrew Faulk, MD (with whom she shared a cadaver table in med school)
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Here are some things the group came up with:
- We are already busy supporting ourselves by self-medicating with food - which, in turn, undermines our health
- We allow our stresses - like work, family - to get in our way
- We don't have the time for ourselves that we might readily give to a BFF
- We harbor negative thoughts and feelings, and we talk to ourselves in negative ways
- We don't stick up for ourselves
- We don't make the effort to be as "nice" to ourselves as we would be to our BFF
- We don't trust, admire, or respect ourselves enough
- We are perfectionists - of ourselves, but not so much of others
- We fear that after putting in the work to succeed, we may find that our lives won't be that much "better"
- We fear disappointing ourselves...again
- We see that if we lost weight, etc., that we would have to address our other issues
- We don't reframe our own self-beliefs (e.g. "I am a person who exercises" rather than "I only exercise when I have to")
- We may not think we deserve a BFF!
So, perhaps we need a "friend make-over!" Check out the list above and see what might apply to you. Then, make it a point to find yourself a non-food treat - as BFF Kim and I are doing in the photo above.
This week, we'll get back to the basics of running our bases. So start by preparing yourself to go to bat...this time, for yourself.
Remember, we're all in this together!
Linda Gromko, MD
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